The Enemy

Posted by on Oct 12, 2015 in Communication, Conflict Theory, Self-help, Self-Mastery, The enemy | Comments Off on The Enemy

In his book, The Gulag Archipelago, Alexander Solzhenitsyn said, “If only there were evil people somewhere insidiously committing evil deeds and it were necessary only to separate them from the rest of us and destroy them. But the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being.” Enemy thinking is creating a ‘them’ out there who are the culprits of all evil. ‘They’ are responsible for societal problems. As long as we can point a finger at a certain group, the rest of us can blame and complain – feeling, of course, that we have done nothing to cause problems. If...

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Change always creates conflict; they cannot be separated

Posted by on Sep 1, 2015 in Conflict Theory, Managing Conflict, Perspective, Self-Mastery | Comments Off on Change always creates conflict; they cannot be separated

Change always creates conflict; they cannot be separated. Change in our lives requires awareness, knowledge and skills. Although people, including families and corporations, try to push through it without addressing the changes taking place, the consequences eventually take its toll, which is rarely positive. The first rule of change is to acknowledge it; we cannot alter or face anything that we are not aware of. Sometimes, we ignore what we cannot resolve. The prospect of the future is overwhelming, and we become paralyzed. Scarlett, in Gone with the Wind, simply said, “I will think about...

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Self-Mastery and Conflict

Posted by on Jun 22, 2015 in Communication, Conflict Theory, developing interpersonal, Managing Conflict, Self-Mastery | Comments Off on Self-Mastery and Conflict

“I sit on a man’s back, choking him and making him carry me, and yet assure myself and others that I am very sorry for him and wish to ease his lot by any means possible, except getting off his back.” —Leo Tolstoy And what if we could make the “rider” more effective in the area of speech and drama so that he could better convince himself and others with sincere empathy that his intentions are good? I am not sure the man having to carry him would be any more relieved by it. And so it is with skills. They can be learned and even mimicked with such art that it looks, sounds and even feels...

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