Posts by Kathy_Stroh_2257_Author

Good, Bad, and Downright Ugly Sides of Conflict

Posted by on Aug 12, 2015 in Communication, Conflict Theory, developing interpersonal, Managing Conflict | Comments Off on Good, Bad, and Downright Ugly Sides of Conflict

Conflict can fall, as a generalization, under three categories of results: good, bad, and downright ugly. These results are not about the process of how conflict was managed, a different exploration all together, but an end product of its impact on an environment and/or human transformation. Determining the end result may not be immediate as conflict’s impact may not be understood or recognized for a long time after the event. Good conflict provides clarity, growth, and positive movement. People or environments are improved, and the results have a lasting effect. Seatbelts are a good...

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Self-Mastery and Conflict

Posted by on Jun 22, 2015 in Communication, Conflict Theory, developing interpersonal, Managing Conflict, Self-Mastery | Comments Off on Self-Mastery and Conflict

“I sit on a man’s back, choking him and making him carry me, and yet assure myself and others that I am very sorry for him and wish to ease his lot by any means possible, except getting off his back.” —Leo Tolstoy And what if we could make the “rider” more effective in the area of speech and drama so that he could better convince himself and others with sincere empathy that his intentions are good? I am not sure the man having to carry him would be any more relieved by it. And so it is with skills. They can be learned and even mimicked with such art that it looks, sounds and even feels...

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The Heroic Act of Escalation

Posted by on Jun 11, 2015 in Conflict Theory, Uncategorized | Comments Off on The Heroic Act of Escalation

Conflict in this sense can be compared to bacteria in the body. We all have bacteria in our body that could prove fatal if it reached a certain level. Our immune system plays the role of keeping the bacteria in check. Conflict also needs to reach a certain level before it can impact a system. When conflict is kept at a low level, it is easy not to deal with it because it isn’t potent or strong enough to get the attention of the system. Even if one person keeps acting out because of it, the conflict may stay hidden behind the actions of the person. Yet, we all know individuals who are...

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A Stressful Thought

Posted by on Mar 11, 2015 in Communication, Conflict Theory | Comments Off on A Stressful Thought

While I was growing up, I dreaded to hear the words, “We are going to have company.” I think my whole family felt a knot in their stomachs as well. Starting several days before the event, my mother would get into the mood. She would turn into someone that Attila the Hun would be leery of challenging. Until the guests actually put a step inside the house, my mother was relentless in her pursuit to have everything in perfect order. It wasn’t until after their arrival that my mother would gradually return to her senses. Company stressed my mom to the point of falling apart. Stress is an...

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The Attack

Posted by on Jan 10, 2015 in Communication, Conflict Theory, Self-help | Comments Off on The Attack

The attack comes at us when we least expect it to happen. Another person comes at us fully armed with anger, a plethora of accusations, and a loaded arsenal of insults and offenses. Time stands still for a second as we try to reason it out. We usually know a snippet or two of the situation, but the full picture still eludes us. Our stomachs may hurt or our chests get tight as a wave of physical shock accompanies the confusion. This is a moment when there are two, opposing needs. The person who is attacking has been overwhelmed with a situation that has escaped the other. Whether real or...

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