Posts by Kathy_Stroh_2257_Author

Expecting Conflict

Posted by on Mar 1, 2016 in Communication, Conflict Theory, Expectations | Comments Off on Expecting Conflict

Expectations are so intertwined with conflict that it deserves another blog – probably deserves many blogs An interesting challenge with expectations is that they are rarely discussed. We expect people to be on time, understand the situation, stay calm, have a back-up plan, finish their part, know that a subject bothers us – and the list goes on and on and on. We expected something different than what developed. Each conflict contains some expectation. Someone forgot a birthday, did not finish a project, interrupted me, fell behind on a payment, did not call, or missed a meeting. On a...

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Expectations

Posted by on Jan 3, 2016 in Communication, Conflict Theory, Expectations | Comments Off on Expectations

The Power of Reasonable Life Choices New Year summons us to let go of the past year and look with optimism to beginning a new one. It is estimated that 45% of the population make resolutions for the coming year. The underlying message of a resolution is an expectation. “I will lose ten pounds because I expect of myself that I am able to do so.” In reality, seventy-three percent of those who make resolutions quit before realizing their goal. This is when the hammer of expectations slams down on us. We cannot even live up to our own expectations! In other words, we have failed – again....

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The Enemy

Posted by on Oct 12, 2015 in Communication, Conflict Theory, Self-help, Self-Mastery, The enemy | Comments Off on The Enemy

In his book, The Gulag Archipelago, Alexander Solzhenitsyn said, “If only there were evil people somewhere insidiously committing evil deeds and it were necessary only to separate them from the rest of us and destroy them. But the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being.” Enemy thinking is creating a ‘them’ out there who are the culprits of all evil. ‘They’ are responsible for societal problems. As long as we can point a finger at a certain group, the rest of us can blame and complain – feeling, of course, that we have done nothing to cause problems. If...

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The Ability to Handle Conflict with Wisdom

Posted by on Sep 3, 2015 in Communication, Conflict Theory, Managing Conflict | Comments Off on The Ability to Handle Conflict with Wisdom

Everyone handles conflict in some way; not everyone can handle conflict with wisdom. In fact, probably most people CANNOT handle conflict with wisdom,and absolutely no one can handle conflict with wisdom 100 percent of the time. We are human, and a plethora of conditions can affect how we respond in conflict. Under certain conditions, it would take a saint to walk out of a situation with addressing the conflict and without hurting another person. There are people who simply fail at handling most conflict. These people usually lack people skills, the ability to handle themselves, the capacity...

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Change always creates conflict; they cannot be separated

Posted by on Sep 1, 2015 in Conflict Theory, Managing Conflict, Perspective, Self-Mastery | Comments Off on Change always creates conflict; they cannot be separated

Change always creates conflict; they cannot be separated. Change in our lives requires awareness, knowledge and skills. Although people, including families and corporations, try to push through it without addressing the changes taking place, the consequences eventually take its toll, which is rarely positive. The first rule of change is to acknowledge it; we cannot alter or face anything that we are not aware of. Sometimes, we ignore what we cannot resolve. The prospect of the future is overwhelming, and we become paralyzed. Scarlett, in Gone with the Wind, simply said, “I will think about...

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